1
Prevent
Prevention removes avoidable barriers and strengthens the ordinary conditions that make participation more likely.
Behavior is part of teaching. So are accountability, repair, and the return to learning.
2
Pause
The pause creates enough space to decide how to hold the expectation.
3
Pivot
A pivot is a change in approach, not a retreat from the expectation.
4
Repair
Repair begins when there is enough regulation and readiness to look at what happened.
5
Return
Return is the path back to learning, participation, and belonging.
The Five Principles
The phases help answer when and what: what the moment can hold and what kind of response is most useful now. The Five Principles shape how that response is carried out without losing dignity, relationship, accountability, or a way back. Neither is a script; the work still depends on the student, the setting, professional judgment, and school procedures.
Principle 01
The Audience Effect
Reduce the audience when the social setting is raising the stakes.
Principle 02
The Dignity Principle
Hold the expectation without unnecessarily damaging the relationship.
Principle 03
The Escalation Ladder
Step off the ladder; don't climb it.
Principle 04
The Reentry Principle
Accountability with a way home.
Principle 05
The Relationship Bank Account
Build the relationship before you need it.